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Matchmaker Asks: Do You Have Sex Appeal...or NOT?

Men — you have to understand what it means to be sexy in the eyes of a woman. The more confident and gentlemanly you are the more women will flock your way.

It has come to my attention that some men and women just don’t know how to exhibit sex appeal.

Let me start off by saying it is all about your BODY LANGUAGE. Period. If you are miscommunicating without even speaking, there is clearly something wrong. Confidence forms the foundation for all sex appeal.

When I go out on my simulated dates I try to get a feel for the men I am going to match. Saying that some of these men don’t even pop up on my radar of sex appeal would be a MAJOR understatement. I couldn’t even imagine kissing these men, let alone go to bed with them. I mean if I’m sitting across from you and I feel NOTHING … well let’s just say no other woman is going to feel anything either.

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Men — you have to understand what it means to be sexy in the eyes of a woman. The more confident and gentlemanly you are the more women will flock your way. Women want a man with an edge: a little cocky, a little playful, and a little out of the box. If you happen to be hotter than hot, your job is a lot easier. However, if you have to “work with what you’ve got,” it might be more of a challenge! Be confident, clever and funny. It seems simple, but some men just don’t know how to exude those qualities.

And women — open up. How do you expect a man to even notice you if you're so closed off? Of course keep it classy, ladies. Sex appeal does NOT revolve around cleavage. Appeal is not necessarily about the way you look, but how you carry yourself. Boobs and butt are not all to which a guy is sexually attracted. It’s that look in your eye that says something like, “I want you right here, right now.”

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If you don’t exude it, pretend like you do and make the person of the opposite sex believe it … and want it.

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